The Great Non-Debate: Career or SAHM Life

1:30 - Welcome back to Tea with Meek and Nique! Let’s start with the tea we’re sipping on - Meek is sipping on some peach tranquility tea, she has really been on a peach kick lately. Nique is sipping on raspberry leaf tea which if you don’t know ladies is an awesome tea for women to drink that helps with your menstrual cycle and so much more. We hope you are sipping on something great mamas.

 

3:29 - Today’s topic is our experience as being both Stay at Home Mom’s and Career Mom’s. This is not one is better than the other, but this is about Meek and Nique sharing their experiences but also being honest about which is harder, they will answer this question a bit later in the show.

 

4:45 - Let’s get to know Meek and Nique’s education and career backgrounds before we discuss the main topic of today. Both have undergraduate and master’s degrees, these are some highly educated Mama’s and they tell you all about it here. We learn that Meek was the first person to go to college in her family, which is a big deal!! They also discuss what they are currently doing “job-wise”.

 

6:49 - We find out that there was a time when Meek and Nique were both stay-at-home moms. Meek details her experience and how she made the decision to be a career Mom. We learn that Nique was a language arts teacher. And how Nique uses her love of teaching in her Mom life.

 

9:05 - We learn that Meek also wanted to be a teacher at one time and considered being a social worker. But, she didn’t feel like either career really fit her vision of the life she wanted.

 

10:00 - Meek asks Nique, “How has your professional experience enhanced your mothering?”. We learn that she always had her teacher hat on, she created a structured pre-school for her children and loved finding teachable moments with her children. Nique throws the question back to Meek, and she explains how she loves to incorporate technology into her mothering. We hear a funny story about Meek making her child fill out her Chick-fil-a survey. Both tell stories when they made their children call and order food or order food at a restaurant. Both discuss the importance of incorporating real-life teachable moments into your mothering. 

 

14:40 - Both discuss letting their children make their own decisions, and navigate the world around them alone in some situation, believing that it builds self-confidence. And, how wonderful it is to see them grow into their own person. Both discuss wanting their children to be well rounded. Meek tells a funny story about her son learning street smarts when trading with friends.

 

18:15 - Both discuss their ultimate personal career goals, not too oddly enough they have similar overall goals of career happiness, one big one being autonomous over their days and building the brands they are currently working on. Tea with Meek and Nique being one of those brands they want to build to success and one that makes money, haha. Nique wants to know she is helping others and they both want to operate with their purpose.

 

22:42 - Now for the topic of the day! “Which is harder being a stay at home mom or career mom”. They both agree they are equally hard with their own challenges and rewards. They discuss their joys and trials, both have experienced being stay at home and career moms. Nique started working at 14 and she jokes that like Barbie she’s had a ton of jobs. But, when she was a teacher she felt aligned in her purpose. Nique describes being a stay at home Mom as being a domestic CEO, with no lunch breaks or clock-out time. 

 

22:40 - Meek has a similar experience as Nique, she has worked since she was 16. She describes how it was mentally challenging at first going from working to being a stay at home Mom. Meek discusses how she thought being a stay at home Mom would be luxurious but she quickly found out it can be very hectic and sometimes overwhelming. Also, after working her entire life she was independent and it was hard to not be. So, she decided to make a shift and find a job.

 

27:35 - Meek is candid about being a career Mom and how somedays she feels lacking over something as simple as what to feed her family for dinner, but she finds peace in knowing no matter if there is a specific plan each night, she knows her family is fed and growing. They agree there is no debate, "Mom life is trill and we are all making it work for our families".

 

28:50 - They share a nugget for the Mom’s out there in the trenches. Meek’s nugget is “Have your tribe, the people you can talk to and vent to and hold them close”. Nique’s nugget is “This too shall pass", it is a temporary assignment, savor it, before you know it you will be looking at them graduating from high school.

 

24:35 - It’s time for Drive Tracks: what are we listening to on the road? Meek is enjoying Jesus Walks by Kanye West, she has been back on her old Kanye. Nique is enjoying Queen and Slim soundtrack.

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